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Are you happy in life?

Updated: Jun 12



Are you happy? What does happiness mean to you?


The answer is completely personal to you. You cannot let your happiness be determined by someone else's definition. Don't let someone else give you permission or validation to do what makes you happy. For me, some of the ways I have learned to consistently be happy is by practising balance and taking time out to make myself a priority in life. This is not selfish, it's called self care and self love. You can do this in many ways regardless of your circumstances or budget. Your needs matter too so make sure you take time out and take care of yourself inside and outside (without apology)

Mindset is everything

When it comes to happiness, the type of mindset you have is VERY important. One of the things I learned from the most unhappy of experiences in my life is that how you choose to think impacts how you feel. I try to live with the mindset of no longer allowing my happiness to be dependent on what the circumstances are. I allow myself to feel whatever I am feeling about the situation but I don't let being happy depend on the situation or outcome. In life you cannot experience this feeling we call "happy" everyday if it only happens when circumstances are going the way we would like. Life is full of changes, some good and some not so good. If you want to live being happy on a consistent basis, you have to release some control and realise that you have access to happiness, any time/anywhere in-spite of what your circumstances are. The way to tap into this power is starting with your mindset: The way you choose to view/think about the situation you are facing. The way you choose to think can either turn an obstacle into an opportunity or turn an opportunity into an obstacle. The choice is yours. We don't always choose the obstacles we find ourselves in, but we can make a choice over how we respond to those obstacles.



Action

The next thing to do is to combine this mindset with action.Take action and do what you can even if it's only a small step....big changes begin with small steps. Happiness is not just what you feel, it involves taking action. Don't wait for happiness to happen to you

, go and find it or create it. Make a list of what you are unhappy with and ask yourself what small actions can I take to start and change that? When it rains, some people get grumpy and complain, others get an umbrella out and get on with their day. Which one are you?


Don't play the avoidance game

Some of us are so talented at avoiding anything that makes us unhappy or uncomfortable not realising this is a trap to permanent unhappiness and misery. Start dealing with those issues you have been avoiding. Begin with the smaller things and work your way towards the bigger stuff. It is better for a season to experience a bit of unhappiness that comes when we are addressing something challenging instead of ignoring the problem completely- avoidance may feel better for the time being but over time, this approach will only chip away at your happiness/peace of mind.


Gratitude

When struggling to be happy, start thinking of all the things that you like about your life and are grateful for. There is ALWAYS something. A concentration camp survivor by the name Viktor Frankl in his book speaks on how even in spite of the harsh circumstances of camp life, he found ways to see something positive! If he can do that then you too can find something to be grateful for. If you need a little help, see here


Invest in your happiness. Take action where you can, don't ask anyone for permission or validation, your happiness is personal to you and only you.😉


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