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Hate being single? Think again...

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Do you dislike being single?


Are you looking for "The One"? and are tired of being alone and want that special someone to lay up in bed with every night?


Well.....this will NOT be the blog post for you. This blog is all about loving the single life whether you are going through a breakup or you are waiting to meet that special someone.


For some people, especially women, the pressure to settle down can be heavy, especially when you hit that number called 30. Pressure starts from all angles, be it from well meaning parents or friends who are on baby number 1,2,3 and yet here you still are....single.


Instead of thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of the non-single life, here are some reasons to help you love being with yourself (also known as being single😉)



1- You get to make you the only priority

When you are single, your time, space, love and energy does not have to be split between you and the other person. You don't have to make compromises to accommodate someone else's feelings and needs. Being single allows you to be completely selfish and focus on self-care. ENJOY THIS because this little piece of freedom will have to be chipped away when you have one extra person to make room for.



2- You have time to get back to YOU and focus on what you want

Sometimes, you can love someone but in the process lose yourself. Do you know who you are now that you are single and the relationship has ended? or did your identity become so wrapped up in the other person that you have lost your own?

Being in a relationship with just you to answer to is not as terrible as it may seem. Use this alone time to focus on you and what you want without having to care or check how it will make someone else feel.


3- You have the option to meet new people (if you want)

Being single opens you up to being free to meet new people- be it building new friendships or dating someone new; being single gives you the option to mingle with different people. You've got 365 days to spend with whomever you want.


4- Your own space

If you experience a break up and have had to move out of each other's space, the empty space can feel lonely at times. But on the other hand, having your own space can be a chance to enjoy being able to just have things the way you like them. No one to clean up after or if you prefer being messy, no arguments needed. Your space, your way.


5- A chance to let a rubbish relationship go

Some of us stay in a relationship with someone for all the wrong reasons that we convince our-self is right. If someone does not respect or value you, stop making excuses for them, let them go and try it out on your own. How will you know that you are capable of life with just you, if you never give yourself a chance to prove it.


Number 6-: ---------------------------------------------- Fill the blank for yourself.


If you are single and reading this, I challenge you to come up with some benefits of your own of being single and comment down below so others can get inspired too.


Enjoying your single does not mean you won't feel lonely at times and frustrated. But learning to love being with just you will ultimately serve you in all relationships, including the one when you meet someone.


Be as happy being with yourself as you would be if you were with someone else because once you are in a relationship with someone, it won't be just happiness everyday. Relationships come with it some work and some unhappy moments too. So enjoy the work of being in a relationship with just you.


Single just means more time to give yourself some self love











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